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POLITICS 05/31/2017 12:18 pm ET
Trump’s Immigration Crackdown Is Pushing Victims Of Abuse Underground
Immigrants who face sexual assault and domestic violence are avoiding police and dropping court cases, a new survey shows.
By Melissa Jeltsen
Undocumented victims of domestic violence and sexual assault are afraid of calling the police, a new survey finds.
The woman was calling because she was frightened.
Her partner had become emotionally and physically abusive after the birth of their son, she told an advocate at the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
She had recorded his threats on her phone but was too scared to involve law enforcement. He was a U.S. citizen, she explained, while she had conditional permission to stay in the United States through former President Barack Obama’s Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals program, or DACA. She didn’t want to be deported.
Her story is not an anomaly. Immigrants are increasingly reluctant to report domestic violence and sexual assault, citing fears of deportation under President Donald Trump, according to a survey released this month of 715 victim advocates and attorneys in 46 states and the District of Columbia.
In April, a coalition of national organizations working to end domestic violence and sexual assault conducted the “2017 Advocate and Legal Service Survey Regarding Immigrant Survivors” to get hard data on how the country’s changing immigration policies were affecting their clients. Nearly 80 percent of advocates reported that survivors had expressed concerns about contacting police. Forty-three percent of advocates said they had personally worked with a survivor who dropped a civil or criminal case because they were too scared to continue. Three-quarters of respondents reported that survivors were worried about going to court.
The survey’s findings offer even more evidence for what advocates and law enforcement leaders predicted: Trump’s immigration crackdown is driving undocumented victims of crime underground.
“Being subjected to domestic violence is scary and terrifying, but so is being detained and deported,” said Monica McLaughlin, deputy director of public policy at the National Network to End Domestic Violence. “If folks are not comfortable asking for help and support in a crisis, it means they are isolated and even more vulnerable.”
In his first week as president, Trump signed two executive orders on immigration that empowered immigration agents, drastically broadened the scope who could be targeted for deportation and called on local law enforcement to take on a greater role in federal immigration enforcement. After Trump’s first 100 days were over, the results were clear: Immigration arrests were up nearly 40 percent.
It’s disheartening to see that there is now an even greater fear for victims and survivors to ask for help.
Katie Ray-Jones, CEO of the National Domestic Violence Hotline
McLaughlin said that many victims were spooked after hearing about the case of an undocumented transgender woman who was arrested in a Texas courthouse while seeking a domestic violence protective order against her ex-boyfriend. “If the perception is that going to court is a dangerous thing, it’s going to change behavior,” she said. In practice, she said, that means fewer victims calling police, filing reports, and cooperating with authorities. And for the assailants, it means they can keep “abusing with impunity,” she said.
Katie Ray-Jones, CEO of the National Domestic Violence Hotline, said many victims were calling in with anxiety about how to get assistance without endangering themselves. “There is so much fear already present in abusive relationships,” she said. “It’s disheartening to see that there is now an even greater fear for victims and survivors to ask for help.”
Abusers can capitalize on that fear, threatening to turn their partners over to immigration authorities if they report abuse. Last week, police arrested a Baltimore defense attorney on suspicion of trying to stop a rape victim from testifying. He allegedly said that she risked deportation by the Trump administration if she did so.
At least two police chiefs have warned that the current political climate is pushing undocumented victims of crime into the shadows. In Los Angeles, Police Chief Charlie Beck said reports of rape among the city’s Latino population have fallen 25 percent, compared to the same period last year. In Houston, Police Chief Art Acevedo said rape reports by Latinos were down 42.8 percent from last year.
If victims are afraid to report, it undermines public safety for the whole community, said Rosie Hidalgo, Director of Public Policy for Casa de Esperanza: National Latin@ Network. “Compelling increased entanglement between local law enforcement and federal immigration enforcement will erode community policing efforts,” she said.
Good policing relies on trust, explained David Alan Sklansky, Stanford University professor and former federal prosecutor. “If victims of crimes don’t feel comfortable reporting the crime or cooperating with police in investigating the crime, it means the police can’t do their job,” he said. “You can’t keep a city safe when victims and witnesses don’t trust you.”
Melissa Jeltsen covers domestic violence and issues related to women’s health, safety and security. Tips? Feedback? Send an email or follow her on Twitter.
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Tips for Safely Reaching Out for Support
July 27, 2016/32 Comments/in Get Help Today /by Advocate
This post was written by advocate Lauren C.
Being in a relationship should not mean you lose your right to privacy or your right to talk to whomever you like. But in an abusive relationship, an abusive person may isolate their partner from sources of support. This is often done by checking their partner’s call log and text history or denying their partner the right to a phone.
Reaching out for support when you’re in an abusive relationship is scary, especially if there are barriers to having a safe phone. If you are having trouble finding a safe way to communicate with others for support, below are some options to consider:
Semi-Safe Phone: If you do have a phone that you use but you are concerned your partner sees your messages or call history, you could selectively delete texts and phone calls. Also, you could clear your search history on a smartphone so your abusive partner cannot see what websites you have visited. Additionally, if you have a family member or friend you trust, you can work out a plan with them where you decide on a code word that you’ll text them when you need help. When that person receives that message containing the code word, they’ll know to take some agreed upon action to help you, like calling the police or picking you up at a certain location.
Trusted Loved One or Neighbor: If you do not have access to a safe phone, there may be someone you trust who will let you use their phone to safely call for support.
Phone Not Connected to Service Provider: Sometimes an abusive partner will cut off their partner’s cell service. Even if the phone doesn’t have service to make general calls, it will call 911. Keeping it charged and near you will give you a way to call 911 in an emergency. If you have a smartphone, you may also be able to use the internet on the phone by connecting to wifi. If your home doesn’t have wifi, going to your local library, community center or coffee shop could be a way for you to reach out for support online.
Internet: There are services such as Google Voice (only available in the U.S.) or Skype that allow you to call someone via the internet. Keep in mind that Google Voice doesn’t work for all 1-800 numbers, but Skype is able to connect with most of them. Facebook also allows you to call other users you are friends with using wifi.
Secret Phone: If it is safe for you to do so, consider getting a phone your abusive partner doesn’t know about. You could keep it at work, with a trusted friend or family member, or in another safe place your partner won’t have access to. There are affordable pay-as-you-go phones which you could purchase and add minutes to when you need them. Another option is Verizon Hopeline, which provides free, refurbished cell phones to survivors through local domestic abuse centers. Safelink is also an option for low-income individuals to receive free phones and minutes.
Community Phones: Local community centers and libraries may have pay phones or public phones you can use. If you live in an apartment complex with a business center, it may offer you a safe way to reach out. Online searches can help you locate pay phones in your area as well.
When you feel safe and ready to reach out for help, don’t forget that Hotline advocates are here to support you 24/7 at 1-800-799-7233, or you can chat live here on our website between 7 a.m. and 2 a.m. Central time.
After you have left an abusive relationship, there may be many occasions where you will have to see the abuser in court to deal with a protection order, custody, child support, divorce, or criminal proceedings. Since you are in a courthouse surrounded by people and even court officers, you may feel like it is okay to let your guard down. However, please remember that any time you come into contact with the abuser, you have to take steps to protect yourself. Here are some tips to help keep you as safe as possible.
Following these suggestions (often known as a safety plan) can’t guarantee your safety, but it could help make you safer. However, it is important that you create a safety plan that is right for you. Not all of these suggestions will work for everyone, and some could even place you in greater danger. You have to do what you think is best to keep yourself and your children safe.
Try to get to court at a different time than you think the abuser will arrive to avoid seeing him/her on the street or in line to enter the court. If the abuser is always late, try arriving early. If the abuser always arrives early, try arriving closer to your hearing time or come with a friend. Remember: make sure to leave plenty of time to get through the lines, metal detectors, etc., so that you get to the hearing on time. If you are late, the case may be called without you and dismissed. Finding a domestic violence advocate to go with you can really help with safety. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE) to find help near you. You can also find a list of domestic violence organizations in your area in our State and Local Programs section.
See if your police department or sheriff’s department will take you to the courthouse. Meet them somewhere other than the courthouse and then ask the officer to walk you inside. Have the officer wait with you until you find the bailiff or courthouse security and let them know your situation. Try to sit near the court officers or security guards if you can.
Bring a friend or family member with you so you won’t have to be alone at all during the day.
If your friend or family member cannot spend the day in court with you, ask that person to drive you to court. It’s best to get someone whose car the abuser doesn’t know. Ask him/her to drop you off at the courthouse entrance so you don’t have to walk alone through the parking lot.
If you have to drive yourself to court and you are worried that the abuser will find your car and wait for you there when court is over, try to use a car the abuser will not recognize. If you can, you may want to borrow or rent a car that the abuser won’t recognize.
Stay together with whoever came with you while inside the courthouse. Ask your friend/family member to keep an eye on the surroundings and pay attention to safety considerations. If you need to use the bathroom and it has a lot of stalls, ask your friend/family member to come into the bathroom with you. If your friend/family member is unable to come into the bathroom with you, ask him/her to wait outside the bathroom for you.
Find someone who knows the courthouse well, like a domestic violence advocate or someone who works at the courthouse. Ask them about safe places you can sit where you will be close to courthouse security but where you will still hear your name called when they call your case. Ask them where all the exits are, in case you have to leave in a hurry. Besides the main exit, there may be exits through the courtrooms, side exits, or fire exits that you could use in an emergency.
Ask the bailiff or courthouse security to keep the abuser away from you. Let the bailiff or courthouse security know if the abuser sits near you or tries to harass you. If you have a restraining order, remember that the order is still in effect while you are in the courthouse. If the abuser violates the order while in the waiting room or in line at the courthouse entrance, you can report it to a court officer or call the police.
At the end of your hearing, ask the judge or the court officer/bailiff to “detain” the abuser. In other words, to hold him/her until you can leave.
If the judge or court officer won’t detain the abuser, think about letting the abuser leave the courthouse first, then wait a long time before leaving and try to leave out of a different exit than the main exit. However, even if you wait a long time, be aware that the abuser could still be out there waiting for you so be observant.
Have a police officer or sheriff walk out of the courthouse with you and walk you to your car if possible.
Have a friend pick you up at the exit or if you had a friend/family member come with you, make sure that s/he walks to your car with you.
Guns and Domestic Violence are a Deadly Combination
APRIL 12, 2017
Lethal school shooting leaves three dead in San Bernardino County
On Monday afternoon, known domestic violence offender Cedric Anderson reportedly opened fire in an elementary school. Police are now referring to this crime as a “murder-suicide” – a term which fails to acknowledge the deadly consequences of domestic violence and the wider impacts in this case: one dead child and one child seriously injured. Abusers often make specific threats to harm their victims, and those threats are frequently not taken seriously.
Domestic violence is about the abuser exercising power and control over the victim. Even after a victim breaks free from an abuser, she is not immediately safe. Abusers are often deadliest when victims try to leave or have recently fled the abuse. One-fifth of homicide victims with restraining orders are murdered within two days of obtaining the order, and one third are murdered within the first month. After leaving an abuser, victims must continue to make specific plans for their safety, sometimes for the rest of their lives.
“Even for victims who leave, their safety isn’t automatically secured,” said Kim Gandy, President and CEO of the National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV). “Although it is counter-intuitive, sometimes not leaving is the safest thing to do at a given moment. One of the most critical services provided by local domestic abuse programs is safety planning with the victim – preparing and leaving in a way that poses the least risk.”
Guns and domestic violence are a deadly combination. The mere presence of a gun increases the risk of domestic violence homicide by 500 percent. In 2014, more female homicide victims were killed with a firearm than with all other weapons combined.
“Abusers’ access to firearms is a serious concern for victims of domestic violence and their communities,” continued Gandy. “We see time and again that when domestic violence isn’t taken seriously, abusers go on killing sprees that leave their victims dead and sometimes many others dead or seriously wounded in the lethal collateral damage. We need to hold domestic violence offenders accountable – before the death toll begins.”
NNEDV supports common sense firearms proposals that would reduce perpetrators’ access to firearms, including expanding the law to prohibit stalkers and abusive dating partners from possessing firearms; requiring firearms removal at the time temporary orders of protection are granted; and improvements to the criminal background check system. Additionally, NNEDV urges lawmakers to increase resources for emergency shelter, housing, legal remedies, economic opportunities for survivors, and training for first responders.
Across the country, strong gun laws are under attack. Legislation is currently pending in the U.S. House and Senate that would require every state – including New York – to let people from states with weak gun laws carry concealed firearms while they are visiting. The Concealed Carry Reciprocity Act (CCRA) would make any permit to carry concealed weapons valid everywhere, regardless of where that permit was issued. In twelve states, you don’t even have to have a permit or any training to carry a concealed weapon. Residents of those states would be free to bring concealed weapons to any city or state they may choose.
We will fight the Concealed Carry Reciprocity Act in the halls of Congress, and if necessary we will fight it in the courts.
Last week, I was joined by NYPD Commissioner James O’Neill and law enforcement leaders from across the country following the conclusion of the fifth national summit of Prosecutors Against Gun Violence, the nonpartisan coalition I co-founded. We gathered prosecutors, police, and lawmakers from red states and blue states, jurisdictions large and small, to speak out against the CCRA. Representatives from Michigan, Alabama, Arizona, California, Washington, Oregon, Tennessee, and Illinois, all joined us at the press conference, which you can watch here.
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Battered Mothers Speak Out: A Human Rights Report on Domestic Violence and Child Custody
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Lundy Bancroft: Should I Stay Or Should I Go (2011):In this supportive and straight forward guide Lundy Bancroft, the author of Why Does He Do That and communication specialist, JAC Parissi, offer a way for women to practically take stock of their relationships and move forward with or without their partners. Women involved in chronically frustrating or unfulfilling relationships will learn to: tell the difference between a healthy-yet difficult relationship and one that is really not working,recognize that their partner has a serious problem,stop waiting to see what happens and make their own growth the priority,prepare for life without their partner-even as they keep trying to make the relationship work.
Lundy Bancroft: The Batterer As Parent (2002 and 2011)
Moving beyond the narrow clinical perspective sometimes applied to viewing the emotional and developmental risks to battered children. The Batterer As Parent, addressing the impact of domestic violence on family dynamics, the second edition, offers a view that takes into account the complex ways in which a batterer’s abusive and controlling behaviors are woven into the fabric of daily life. This book is a guide for therapists, child protective workers, family and juvenile court personnel and other human service providers in addressing the complex impact that batterers, specifically male batterers of domestic partners, when there are children in the household have on family functioning. In addition to providing an understanding of batterers as parents and family members, the book also supplies clearly delineated approaches to such practical issues as assessing risk to children perpetrating incest, parenting issues in child custody and visitation evaluation and the impact on children’s therapeutic process and family functioning in child protective practice.
Lundy Bancroft: When Dad Hurts Mom (2004)
Nearly three quarters of women who are chronically mistreated by their partners have children. In this sensitive, respectful book, counselor, speaker, teacher and activist Bancroft gives those women ways to help their children heal from the pain of seeing such abuse. Using anecdotes, Q & A’s, bulleted points to remember and a caring but firm tone, Bancroft tells abused mothers exactly the actions they should take to help their children. Don’t blame children or yourself, he says and let children know it’s good to talk about the verbal or physical abuse they have been exposed to. Bancroft coaches moms to tell their children that abuse is wrong, but warns them not to criticize the abusers a person if he is a father figure to the children. Bancroft’s important book addresses peripheral issues too, such as separation and divorce and deals with child protective services and the family court system.
Lundy Bancroft: Why Does He Do That: Inside The Minds Of Angry Controlling Men (2002)
Bancroft, a former co director of Emerge, the first US program for abusive men, and a fifteen year veteran of work with abusive men, reminds readers that each year in this country, two to four million women are assaulted by a husband or boyfriend at some point in her life. His valuable resource covers early warning signs, ten abusive personalities, the abusive mentality, problems getting help from the legal system and the long complex process of change. After dispelling 17 myths about abusive personalities, he sheds light on the origin of the abusers values and beliefs which he finds to be a better explanation of abusive behaviors than a reference to psychological problems. Bancroft extends his approach to problematic gay and lesbian relationships as well, making the book that much more useful and empowering. This is essential reading for those in the helping professions and highly recommended for all libraries, especially those in communities with emergency shelter programs.
Susan Brewster: Helping Her Get Free: A Guide for Families and Friends of Abused Women
Seal Press (2006)
Originally published Helping Her Get Free with the title, To Be An Anchor From The Storm. The survivor of an abusive relationship herself, and a licensed counselor of abused women for more than a decade, Susan Brewster teaches readers how to recognize the signs of abuse, handle negative feelings, become an effective advocate, deal with the abuser and more. With a new introduction and updated resource section, this straight forward and compassionate book offers the information needed to help give strength to women who are trying to break free.
Susan Brownmiller: Against Our Will: Men, Women and Rape (1993)
The most comprehensive study of rape ever offered to the public. It forces readers to take a fresh look at their own attitudes toward this devastating crime. As powerful and timely as when it was first published, Against Our Will, stands as a unique document of the history of politics, the sociology of rape and the inherent and ingrained inequality of men and women under the law. In lucid, persuasive prose, Brownmiller has created a definitive, devastating work of lasting social importance. Chosen by the New York Times Book Review as one of the outstanding books of the year.
Ross Chiet:The Witch Hunt Narrative, Politics ,Psychology and the Sexual Abuse of Children: Oxford University Press 2014 USA
Empirically challenges the view that a series of high- profile cases in the 1980’s and early 1990’s were hoaxes. Shows how a narrative based on empirically thin evidence became a theory with real social force and how that theory stood at odds with the reality of child sexual abuse.
Jill Davies, Eleanor Lyons, Diane Monti-Cantania: Safety Planning With Battered Women: Complex Lives Difficult Choices: Sage Series on Violence Against Women (1998)
The model emphasizes understanding a battered women’s perspective, including her risk analysis and safety plan; building partnerships with battered women; and systems advocacy. It seeks to craft courses of action that will enhance women’s safety given their individual realities.
Donna Ferrato:”Living with the Enemy”
Ferrato rode over 6,000 hours with police around the country to get some of the photographs in Living With the Enemy. In the introduction to Living With the Enemy, Ferrato writes, “Much of the book was born out of frustration – first, because I felt powerless in the face of the violence I had seen, and, second, because for a long time no magazine would publish the pictures. It was only when I received the W. Eugene Smith Award in 1986 that magazine editors began to take the project seriously.” Ferrato felt the problem had been concealed from public view for too long and it was important to show as many aspects of the problem as she could. Some of the names in the book were changed, but all of the photographs and stories are real.
Meg Kennedy Dugan & Roger Hock: It’s My Life Now: Starting Over After An Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence (2006)
Those who have never experienced an abusive or violent relationship often believe that when finding a way out, victims’ difficulties are solved, their life is good, they are safe and recovery will be swift. However survivors know that leaving is not the end of the nightmare, it is the beginning of an often difficult and challenging journey through healing and happiness. It’s My Life Now offers readers the practical guidance; emotional reassurance and psychological awareness that survivors of relationship abuse and domestic violence need to heal and reclaim their lives after leaving their abusers. Since its publication in 2000, It’s My Life Now, has been highly successful as a working manual for survivors who are starting their lives over after an abusive relationship. This valuable book combines direction on practical and emotional issues with worksheets and self exploration exercises. Now in the second edition, Dugan and Hock include updated information and resources while encompassing a wider range of individuals and the relationships in which abuse and violence occur. The new edition also provides a new emphasis on safety assessment which has increasingly been shown to be a critical factor in recovery. In addition, this new addition includes current resources and information about organizations for victims along with revised and enhanced strategies to help survivors move forward on the path of recovery.
G. Ennis & J. Black: It’s Not OK Anymore (1997)
Your personal guide to ending abuse, taking charge and loving yourself.
David Finkelhor: License To Rape: Sexual Abuse of Wives (1987)
Two Psychologists examine the psychological and social implications of sexual abuse within the marriage, in a study that explores the motives behind the marital rape, the emotional and legal aspects and patterns of sexual abuse.
Ann Jones: Next Time She’ll Be Dead: Battering And How To Stop It (2000)
In Next Time She’ll Be Dead, Ann Jones argues that all women have the right to live free from bodily harm. Yet violence against women continues. Next Time She’ll Be Dead examines four habits of the American mind that cloud our thinking about women battering and contribute to the persistence of what we euphemistically call domestic violence.
Ann Jones: When Love Goes Wrong: What To Do When You Can’t Do Anything Right (1993)
This book was written at the request of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence to benefit millions of women who find themselves in relationships with controlling or abusive partners and don’t know what to do or even what’s wrong. A woman may feel confused, anxious, inadequate, intimidated or as if she is walking on egg shells. She may find herself trying harder to make things right without ever being successful.
Nicholas Kristof: Half The Sky (2009)
The courageous book by Nicholas Kristof about sex trafficking of girls and women internationally.
Paula Lucas: Harvesting Stones A true story of an American mothers attempt to get to safety with her sons, living through “terror at home” with little help while abroad. Her courageous story and her eventual success to return to the United States, away from the madman she married. She has since organized an organization for battered mothers and children living abroad to return to safety in the United States. email: Paula@HarvestingStonesBook.com
Del Martin: Battered Wives (1981) Battered Wives is the first (and still the best) general introduction to the problem of abuse. Battered Wives includes excellent critical summaries of the legal and political status of battered wives and the extent to which their immediate predicament must be understood in broad political terms. Del Martin argues that the basis of the problem is not in husband/wife interaction or immediate triggering events, but in the institution of marriage, historical attitudes toward women, the economy and inadequacies in legal and social service systems. Martin wants police and prosecutor functions constrained. She proposes specific legislation prohibiting wife abuse and suggests that judges protect the wife by closing the door to probation and de-emphasizing reconciliation. Other considerations concern gun control, equal rights and marriage contract legislation. Battered Wives is the seminal benchmark title on the subject of domestic violence.
Amy Neustein: From Madness to Mutiny: Why Mothers Are Running From the Family Courts And What Can Be Done About It (2006)
In this astonishing book sociologist Amy Neustein and attorney Michael Lesher examine the serious dysfunction of the nation’s family courts – a dysfunction that too often results in the courts’ failure to protect the people they were designed to help. Specifically, the authors chronicle cases in which mothers who believe their children have been sexually abused by their fathers are disbelieved, ridiculed or punished for trying to protect them. All too often the mother in such a case, is deemed the unstable parent and her children are removed from her care to be placed in foster care or even with the father credibly accused of abusing them. From Madness to Mutiny offers an overview of family court malfunction mutiny that results from it. The authors outline the legal landscape that makes the madness possible and shows how the system has failed to react to severe criticism from media and legislators. And they discuss ways to reform the family courts with the goal of transforming them from instruments of punishment to true institutions of justice.
Anna Quindlen: Black and Blue (1998)
For eighteen years Fran Benedetto kept her secret, hid her bruises. She stayed with Bobby because she wanted her son to have a father, and because in spite of everything, she loved him. Then one night, when she saw the look on her ten year old son’s face, Fran finally made a choice and ran for both of their lives. Now she is starting over in a city far from home, far from Bobby. In this place she uses a name that isn’t hers, watches over her son, and tries to forget. For the woman who now calls herself Beth, every day is a chance to heal, to put together her shattered self. And every day she waits for Bobby to catch up to her. Bobby always said he would never let her go and despite the ingenuity of her escape, Fran Benedetto is certain of one thing, it is only a matter of time.
Victor Rivers: A Private Family Matter (2006)
“This is a story about how I was saved by love at a time when most people considered me beyond rescue.” So begins Victor Rivas Rivers in this powerful chronicle of his escape from the war zone of domestic violence – too often regarded as a “private family matter” and his journey toward independence, recovery and renewal. In A Private Family Matter, Victor recalls his days as an angry youth living under the rule and wrath of his father. A Cuban immigrant, Victor’s dad was nicknamed El Ciclon for his tempestuous temperament, which led him not only to beat his wife but to abuse and eventually kidnap his own children. How Victor managed to seek help for his family and criminal punishment for his father, overcome demons and learn to love himself and share his experience with other victims and survivors of domestic abuse is the heart of this profound and affecting memoir.
Angela Shelton: Finding Angela Shelton (2008)
The true story of a girl sexually molested by her own father and her courageous journey to healing and exposing the crimes of her father. The father that stole her childhood.
Gloria Steinem: My Life On the Road:2015: A woman of courage,Gloria Steinem and action. An essential book on the political culture in this country,womens politics and the theme of men continuing to attempt to silence the voice of the women feminists. A reminder to all of who we are and what we can accomplish when we are united,women united
Lenore Walker: The Battered Woman (1980)
Battering is one of the underreported, over mythologized crimes. It is terrifying in its privacy, its intimate violence, its displaced rage and distorted eroticism. Professor Walker’s study suggests that not only is it not a crime of the drunken, ethnic, working classes, but also that battered women are far more common in the middle class and higher income homes where the power of their wealth is in the hands of their husbands. In addition to carefully written and inevitably disturbing case studies, Professor Walker’s book includes sections on preventative education, practical remedies, including safe-houses and a careful discussion of psychotherapy. It is a sensible, compassionate feminist book
Susan Weitzman: Not To People like Us: Hidden Abuse in Upscale Marriages (2001)
Chicago’s affluent North Shore provides 20 year veteran psychologist Weitzman with abundant evidence of the secret lives of upscale domestic abusers and their victim wives. Shattering the cultural myth that emotional and physical violence in the home is confined to couples of a lower socioeconomic class, the author presents vivid case histories that are often excluded from clinical studies and statistics. Lacking a frame of reference for domestic violence with this echelon, healthcare professionals ignore the signs, while law enforcement agents and judges go easy on it, she contends. Few believe or sympathize with a well dressed ,bejeweled woman if she finds the courage and self respect to speak out against her successful, respected, powerful and often charming husband, while battered women’s shelters turn her away, assuming that she has many other resources. But according to Weitzman she doesn’t. While often well educated and successful the “upscale abused woman” is typically ignorant of her legal rights, convinced by her abuser that she is responsible for his behavior and isolated by her denial and shame from validating voices and potential assistance. Weitzman’s upscale abuser exhibits narcissistic personality disorder, feels eminently entitled and is incapable of seeing his wife as a person in her own right. Weitzman provides excellent practical advice for these women to make choices that extricate them from abuse and proposes a new language and better education regarding” upscale violence” for the professionals who are likely to see it with her work.
Karen Winner: Divorced From Justice: The Abuse of Women and Children by Divorce Lawyers and Judges (1996)
Contact with the divorce court system may be extremely dangerous. You may lose your children, your home, your life savings and your health. Before you enter a divorce lawyer’s office or courtroom, read this book to protect yourself and your children. It provides a vital road map through the treacherous landscape of divorce. A full fledged assault against women and children is under way in the divorce courts across the country. Women are losing their economic security, their homes, their child support and even their children because of corrupt court proceedings. In Divorced From Justice, Karen Winner explodes the myth that divorce laws were created to protect women and children financially and reveals how all women, from poor and working class women to professional women of affluent means, are all too often at the mercy of divorce lawyers who deal in dirty tricks, and judges who flagrantly violate the laws they are supposed to uphold.
A Cry For Help: The Tracey Thurman Story: Written by Beth Sullivan
A true story of a woman, Tracey Thurman, who was brutally beaten by her husband many times. She contacted the police department numerous times in Torrington, Ct., her police department that failed to protect her even with an order of protection in place against him. After he had threatened to kill her and kidnapped her son, she contacted the Torrington, Ct. police department and they continued to ignore her ex-husband’s threats. After she was attacked by her ex-husband with the police department present and witnesses, her lawyer, Burton Weinstein, filed a lawsuit against the town of Torrington, Ct. and the Torrington, Ct,. Police Department. She won the law suit with a 2.5 million dollar settlement and her ex-husband went to jail.
Black and Blue: Anna Quindlen
The story of a woman married to a police officer that brutally beats her. Escaping with her child, she attempts to start a new life against all odds of him discovering their hard won freedom.
Born Into Brothels
DVD documentary about sex slaves, women and girls.
Brave Miss World
Documentary by Cecelia Peck: http://www.bravemissworld.com
The film explores the trauma of sexual assault through one woman’s journey from teenage rape victim, to Miss World, to empowered lawyer and activist.
Documentary Filmmaker Cecelia Peck featured on “The Last Word” with Lawrence O’Donnell
Breaking The Silence: Children’s Stories
Featuring Joan Meier, George Washington University. Stories of children and their protective mothers up against family court corruption, in state failure to protect them from violent husbands and fathers, physical abuse, psychological “terror at home” and sexual abuse.
Breaking the Silence: Journeys of Hope: Victor Rivers
Breaking the Silence Journeys of Hope is a penetrating examination of the pervasiveness of domestic violence in our society, the efforts that are being made to combat it, and the lives of women who became survivors instead of victims.
Half The Sky: Nicholas Kristof
The courageous documentary about sex trafficking internationally of girls and women.
NCPTC Saving Children, The Sexual Abuse Tragedy
Victor Vieth: Director of NCPTC, documents the true stories of children and protective mothers’ attempts to get to safety, to get away from violent men molesting their own children. With evidence of sexual molestation of children, he exposes the continued state failure to put an end to sex abuse of children in the United States.
No Way Out But One
http://www.garlandwallerproductions.com. Garland Waller documents, with her husband news reporter Barry Nolan, the true story of Holly Collins and her eventual realization that she must leave her own country, the United States, to escape a violent husband and violent father to her children. She moves undercover to the Netherlands, given the refusal of the United States to put an end to the “terror at home,” which she and her children lived with in her husband’s home. She was put on the FBI watch list after her escape. This heartfelt documentary by Garland Waller exposes the complete refusal of the family courts and law enforcement to protect this mother and her children. The complete refusal to make violence against protective mothers and children a crime.
A documentary film by Cynthia Hill, that was introduced at Robert Redford’s Sundance Film Festival last year and is now on HBO, currently on HBO on Demand and HBO Go, and showcased all over the country. An important and courageous film on violence against women, protective mothers and their children that is a true portrayal of state failure and community failure to protect brutally battered and terrorized women, protective mothers and their children. An Emmy nomination,2015, Outstanding Informational Programming: HBO Documentary Films:for this important and courageous film about male violence against women, protective mothers and their children in the United States.
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Searching for Angela Shelton: Angela Shelton
The story of a young girl sexually molested by her own father. Her story of finding peace and saying no more to the father that stole her childhood from her by molesting her.
Sleeping With The Enemy
The story of a woman’s escape from a dangerous and violent husband to begin a new life with a new identity. A violent man that tracks her down with her new found freedom and attempts to murder her.
http://www.smalljustice.com. Garland Waller exposes the injustice in the family courts in the United States, the judicial and political corruption. She documents her interviews with the PAS “hired gun” Richard Gardner of the fathers’ rights movement, Richard Gardner the man that committed suicide, he and his bogus theory used in the family courts that allows children to be brutalized by their violent fathers, and children who are sexually molested by their violent fathers. This sick man, Richard Gardner, uses the excuse that
the mother has “alienated” the children from the father as the reason the mother is desperate to leave a violent marriage and attempts to get her children to safety. PAS, parental alienation syndrome, is used quite often in the family courts against protective mothers.
The Color Purple: Alice Walker
The story of a poor black woman whose letters tell the story of 20 years of her life, beginning at age 14 when she is being abused and raped by her father and attempting to protect her sister from the same fate, and continuing over the course of her marriage to “Mister”, a brutal man who terrorizes her.
The Hunting Ground: Opening Feb. 27,2015 New York City and LA, now nationally
From the Academy Award-nominated filmmakers behind The Invisible War comes a startling expose of rape crimes on US campuses,institutional cover-ups and the brutal social toll on victims and their families. The Hunting Ground is a must see account of the harsh retaliation,harassment and pushback survivors face as they pursue their education while fighting for justice.Premiered at the Sundance Film Festival 2015,Official Selection Sundance Film Festival
Terror At Home:Domestic Violence in America
The documentary featuring Michael Bolton on violence against women in America.
Wounded to Death
Featured on http://www.trustwomenconf.com
“Wounded To Death”,is a book reading event based on the work of Italian authors Serena Dandini and Maura Misita presented at the” Trust Women Conference” about violence against women internationally.
Journalists: Articles On Domestic Violence
“A Domestic Violence Law That Shines a Light on Coercive Control”
The Guardian:December 7,2015
“Reporting Rape and Regretting It: Inside a University Inquiry”
International New York Times
July 12, 2014
“Humbled By Scandal Judge Begins Prison Sentence”
New York Times 2007
“Kerry Joins Envoys to Deplore Sexual Violence in War”
International New York Times
June 13, 2014
National legal correspondent
“No longer ignored, evidence solves rape cases years later”
International New York Times
Deputy Editor for Global Development
“Women’s Rights the Focus as World Leaders Gather for NY Talks”
March 10, 2014
“Ending Sexual Violence in Conflict”, What’s Your Message to the World Leaders
May 29, 2014
“Profiteering at the R.I. Family Court”
Providence Journal 2007
Blog: “Rhode Island’s little hostages”
Melissa Jeltsen:Senior Reporter Huffington Post:3/30/2016
3 Women Are Killed Every Day By Their Partners.
Here Are 59 Ideas on How To Stop The Violence
International Herald Tribune: October 3, 2013
“Next Time Maybe Libraries Can Be Shelters From The Storm”
“Custodians of Abuse”
Photojournalist featured in “Lens” International New York Times
“Behind Closed Doors”
The powerful photography exhibit by international photographer, Steve McCurry of the “Behind Closed Door” exhibit, exposing violence against domestic workers, violence against women, protective mothers and children internationally.
CNN:Ben Wright:Threatened,assaulted,trapped,treatment of domestic workers.
“Domestic Violence Victims Get Help”
“Britain’s crime of complicity with Savile’s sex abuse scandal”
New York Times
July 30, 2014
“Salvation Army puts #the dress in a new light with powerful domestic violence ad”
“Why is it so Hard to see Black and Blue”:Stop Abuse Against Women Campaign South Africa
The Washington Post
“Well to Do Domestic Violence Victims Hide in the Shadows at Their Own Peril”
lohud:The Journal News
”Two Parent Households Can be Lethal: Domestic Violence and the Two Parent Household”
New York Times Sunday Review
June 21, 2014
“A Victim’s Story: Pain and Triumph Over Domestic Violence”
Narragansett Times 2007: Rhode Island
Till Death Do Us Part”
2015 Pulitzer Prize Winners in Journalism,Letters,Drama and Music
By The New York Times April 20,2015
Public Service Award:Staff Post and Courier in Charleston South Carolina
Series on domestic violence in America and the state failure to protect women, protective mothers and their children from male violence
Ann Patricia Coleman