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Financial abuse is a common tactic used by abusers to gain power and control in a relationship. Whether subtle or overt, there are common methods that abusers use to gain and maintain financial control over their partners. These can include:

  • Forbidding the victim from working
  • Sabotaging work or employment opportunities by stalking or harassing the victim at the workplace or causing the victim to lose their job by physically abusing the victim prior to important meetings or interviews
  • Controlling how household income is spent
  • Not allowing the victim access to accounts
  • Withholding money or giving “an allowance”
  • Not including the victim in financial decisions
  • Forbidding the victim from attending job training or advancement opportunities
  • Forcing the victim to commit financial related crimes, such as writing bad checks or filing fraudulent tax returns
  • Running up large amounts of debt on joint accounts
  • Refusing to work or contribute to the family income
  • Withholding funds from the victim or children to obtain basic needs such as food and medicine
  • Hiding assets
  • Stealing the victim’s identity, property or inheritance
  • Forcing the victim to work in a family business without pay
  • Refusing to pay bills and ruining the victim’s credit score
  • Forcing the victim to turn over public benefits and then threatening to turn the victim in for “cheating” or misusing benefits
  • Filing false insurance claims
  • Refusing to pay or evading child support or manipulating the divorce process by drawing it out, hiding or not disclosing assets.

The short- and long-term effects of financial abuse can be devastating. In the short term, access to assets is imperative to staying safe. Without assets, survivors are often unable to obtain safe and affordable housing or provide for themselves or their children. With realistic fears of homelessness, it is little wonder that survivors often return to abusive partners.

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For those who manage to overcome initial hurdles to escape the abusive person, they often face overwhelming odds in obtaining long-term security and safety. Ruined credit scores, sporadic employment histories and legal issues caused by the abuser make it extremely difficult to gain financial independence.

It can be difficult for couples to navigate the complexities of family finances, and almost all couples have arguments about money. In financially healthy relationships, however, partners talk about their wants and needs and make choices about finances together. When one person strategically uses finances as a way to control their partner, that is abusive. Financial empowerment is imperative to survivors’ independence, well-being and success.

The Economic Justice project at the National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV) works to strengthen victim advocates’ financial capabilities to better assist survivors of domestic violence and help them move from short-term safety to long-term security and an economically sustainable independent life. We employ a signature “train-the-trainer” approach to deliver financial literacy lessons to victim advocates across the United States.

The road to economic empowerment for survivors is not easy or quick, but with the help of advocates and allies, we can ensure that survivors have the support and resources they need to be financially independent.

Learn more at

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As Lifetime Heads To Washington For Its ‘Stop Violence Against Women Week,’ New Poll Shows That More Than 7 Out of 10 Young Women and Men Ages 16-24 Know Someone in an Abusive Relationship– Ten Years After Congress Created the Violence Against Women Act, Young Women

and Men Consider Gender Violence to Be a Public, not Private Problem, With

Congress and Law Enforcement Key Institutions

Responsible for Addressing –

– Vast Majority of Young People Say Violence Against Women is Extremely

Serious, Common and Receiving Too Little Attention, and Young Women Say They

Must Take Special Safety Precautions –

 that the vast majority of young people -- the first generation to come of age
 in the ten years since Congress adopted the most far-reaching law, the
 Violence Against Women Act, to address gender violence in the U.S. -- believe
 that violence against women remains an extremely serious and common problem.
 Nearly three quarters (72%) believe that violence against women -- defined as
 domestic violence; acts of sexual assault, such as rape; stalking; and,
 verbal, physical, and emotional abuse -- receives too little attention. To
 this generation, violence is no longer a private, personal matter, but rather
 a critical societal problem which public institutions, like Congress and law
 enforcement, should take the lead in addressing. The dramatic survey results
 come as thousands of advocates, survivors, business and political leaders,
 athletes and celebrities such as Grammy-winners Alanis Morissette, Lee Ann
 Womack and Michael Bolton descend on the capital for Lifetime's 4th annual
 "Stop Violence Against Women Week," March 7-11, and as the Network officially
 re-launches its Emmy-winning on-air, online, community and legislative
 initiative "Our Lifetime Commitment: Stop Violence Against Women."
     According to the recent Lifetime survey of 600 women and men, ages 16-24,
 violence has personally touched their lives much more so than people have
 reported in prior studies:
     * Approximately seven in ten women (77%) and men (64%) said they know or
       have known someone in an abusive relationship and approximately six in
       ten say that they know a woman who has been sexually assaulted. This is
       a dramatic increase from a Family Violence Prevention Fund 1996 survey
       of Adults 18+ that found that only 33% of respondents have known a woman
       in an abusive relationship.
     * For young women the personal connection is even more profound and the
       fear of sexual violence alters their daily life. Approximately nine out
       of ten (87%) young women said that they take special precautions to
       rarely or never walk alone after dark and nearly two-thirds (64%) said
       that they think about what could happen if they leave a drink
     The survey suggested that some progress has been made in making gender
 violence no longer a silent, private problem and instead want Congress and law
 enforcement to address it. Young people clearly recognize that violence
 against women -- specifically partner abuse, rape and stalking -- is a crime
 and that public institutions are responsible for addressing the problem.
     * A majority (63%) named law enforcement as the first and second most
       responsible for addressing the problem. More than one-third of
       respondents (36%) said Congress is either first or second most
     * However, a gender gap remains on how serious the issue is among men and
       women. 75% of young women think the issue is "extremely serious"
       compared to 57% of young men, thus demonstrating the importance of
       Lifetime's campaign, in collaboration with ESPN and others, to reach
       both women and men.
     Young people are also willing to speak out and address violence against
 women themselves.
     * When asked what they would do if they knew a friend or relative who was
       abusing a girlfriend or wife, half (50%) of all young men surveyed said
       that would say something to him about his abusive behavior.
     * More than two-thirds (66%) said that they'd be somewhat or very likely
       to report the abuse to the police.
     * Nearly three-quarters (74%) of both men and women said that they would
       urge the woman to get help.
     * And a majority of both women and men said that they would not remain
     In addition, young women and men have a much higher "IQ on Violence
 Against Women" than previous studies have found.
     * 91% knew that less than one-third of rapes and sexual assaults are
       reported to law enforcement officials.
     * 85% knew that more than one million women are stalked by men each year.
     * 80% knew that, in the US, the leading cause of injury to women between
       15 and 25 is battering.
     * 75% knew that a woman is more likely to be raped by her husband,
       partner, boyfriend or acquaintance than she is to be raped by a
       stranger. This is a dramatic increase in awareness compared to a poll
       done in 2002 that found nearly 6 in 10 Americans age 18+ (58%) wrongly
       believed that women are more likely to be raped by someone they don't
     However, serious misconceptions still exist and young people say that they
 are exposed to gratuitous violence in music, video games and other
 entertainment that make people less sensitive to the issue of violence against
     * Nearly half of women and more than half of men still believe that women
       abuse men just as much as men abuse women. According to the Bureau of
       Justice Statistics, in 2001, among Adults 18+, women accounted for 85
       percent of the victims of intimate partner violence and men accounted
       for approximately 15 percent of the victims.
     * 78% of respondents believe that the number one reason a woman stays in
       an abusive relationship is low self-esteem, even though in reality the
       reasons are much more complicated, including financial and custody
       issues and fear.
     * Three quarters (75%) of those people surveyed said that they know
       someone who listens to songs, plays video games, etc. that depict
       physical or sexual violence against women as acceptable behavior, but
       72% said that exposure makes the listener or viewer much or somewhat
       less sensitive to violence.
     The poll is part of Lifetime's Emmy Award-winning campaign "Our Lifetime
 Commitment: Stop Violence Against Women," which is dedicated to: raising
 awareness of various forms of violence, such as domestic violence, sexual
 assault and stalking; offering lifesaving information and support; promoting
 passage of bi-partisan supported national legislation; and engaging women and
 men to work together to prevent violence. The initiative includes on-air
 programming such as an original documentary, "Terror at Home: Domestic
 Violence in America," online content, community outreach and legislative
 advocacy, including Lifetime's support of reauthorization of the Violence
 Against Women Act.
     Survey Methodology: The survey was conducted online by The Michael Cohen
 Group for Lifetime Television from February 9-16, 2005, among 600 young
 people, 16-24 years of age. The sample was comprised of 50% female and 50%
 male respondents. One-third of respondents were 16-18; one-third of
 respondents were 19-21; one-third of respondents were 22-24. Additionally,
 quotas were set to ensure racial representation that is reflective of the U.S.
 population between 16-24 as a whole. (A full report is available upon
     Lifetime's Partners: Lifetime's non-profit partners include: American Bar
 Association; Break the Cycle; Corporate Alliance to End Partner Violence;
 Equality Now; Legal Momentum; Family Violence Prevention Fund; Darkness To
 Light; Help USA; International Justice Mission; Jackson Katz; Dr. Alan McEvoy;
 MVP Strategies; Mayor's Office to Combat Domestic Violence (New York City);
 Men Can Stop Rape; Mentors in Violence Prevention; The Michael Bolton
 Charities; The National Center for Victims of Crime; National Latino Alliance
 for the Elimination of Domestic Violence; National Coalition Against Domestic
 Violence; National Domestic Violence Hotline; National Network to End Domestic
 Violence; National Sexual Violence Resource Center; Partnership Against Child
 Abuse; RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network); Safe Horizon; Sports
 Leadership Institute;; V-Day; Vital Voices; The
 Wireless Foundation; and more, many of which helped to inform
 the survey questionnaire. Lifetime's campaign is made possible by: on-air
 sponsor Whirlpool, media partner Comcast, off-air corporate partner The Body
 Shop and collaborator ESPN.
     About Lifetime: LIFETIME is the leader in women's television and one of
 the top-rated basic cable television networks. A diverse, multi-media company,
 LIFETIME is committed to offering the highest quality entertainment and
 information programming, and advocating a wide range of issues affecting women
 and their families. LIFETIME Television, Lifetime Movie Network, Lifetime Real
 Women, Lifetime Radio for Women, Lifetime Home Entertainment and Lifetime
 Online are part of LIFETIME Entertainment Services, a 50/50 joint venture of
 The Hearst Corporation and The Walt Disney Company.

SOURCE  Lifetime Television